The holiday season tends to come with traditions, stress, and family gatherings that you can’t always escape. What you can control is how much fun you squeeze out of December before sitting at the dinner table answering questions about your lovelife.
For me, this has become a yearly sport. My grandmother brings up my dating life every single time we meet. Not because she worries I’ll end up alone, she’s convinced men are replaceable, but because she loves to critique whoever I’m seeing. Since none of them have ever met her standards, I prefer showing up with good stories instead of good candidates. And the festive season makes it surprisingly easy: people are more open to new connections, holiday dating feels more playful, and it’s the perfect time to explore a more dominant, confident side of yourself. Here are my favorite tips to make your Christmas period far more exciting.
1. Use a dating app
Going on dating apps is much more efficient than freezing outside while approaching men to share a cup of mull wine with you. I use Chyrpe, a dating app built around femdom, bdsm, and female-led dynamics. It saves time, filters out the men who aren’t on the same wavelength, and helps you connect with partners who appreciate a dominant woman. The men I met there have been the most respectful, communicative, and open to power play. It’s a quick way to make December a lot more intriguing.
2. Naughty advent calendar
If you already have someone promising in your messages, a custom advent calendar is a great way to keep the spark alive throughout December. I’m currently talking to an engineer who enjoys being the submissive partner in a bdsm relationship. Since he’s with his family for Christmas, I’ve been sending him a task every day: a mix of obedience challenges and playful assignments he has to complete. If he keeps behaving, he’ll get a proper reward when he’s back in town. A naughty advent calendar keeps the tension high and works beautifully for long-distance holiday flirting.
3. Kinky Christmas Roleplay
Let me preface this tip by saying you don’t have to play Santa and Elf for a christmas roleplay to count. Christmas time is a highly creative period, when you can come up with great new ideas and storylines in the bedroom as well. On less creative days, using red and white bands can already be enough.
4. Work with Scent and Textures
This brings me to the next point. Christmas is marked by the scent of a burning candle, the scent of a brewing coffee you sprinkle cinnamon on top, the scent of tangerine on your fingertips. There’s also interesting textures such as satin, wool or velvet. These sensory layers set the atmosphere before anything even begins. Incorporating scents and textures is a subtle but powerful way to build dominance, anticipation, and desire.
5. Cozy Aftercare
A comforting aftercare routine is fulfilling all year around. But especially so during christmas. Staying wrapped under a blanket because it’s too cold outside. Watching a flickering candle slowly go out. Calmly caressing each others bodies. Adding cozy holiday elements makes the whole experience feel intentional and intimate.
