New Year’s resolutions don’t have to revolve around weight loss, productivity hacks or becoming “better” by external standards. For a dominant woman, the most powerful resolutions start internally. This article explores New Year’s resolutions of a dominant woman who is less interested in diet culture and surface-level self-improvement, and more focused on self-leadership, emotional awareness and intentional female-led relationships. By strengthening the relationship with yourself, understanding your past, and becoming conscious of your attachment style, you create the foundation to lead your relationships with clarity, confidence, and purpose.
“Next year, I don’t really want to loose weight, but for sure a healthier lifestyle would do me well”, my friend told me the other day. I sighed, fearing to have lost another friend to diet culture. In my late twenties now, I feel like I’ve figured out my lifestyle. Happy with my workout routine, neutral towards my body and satisfied with the way I’m eating, drinking and never even starting to smoke. This year, I want to work on something much more profound: the relationship with myself in order to become a better dominant woman in my relationships. Leadership in relationships is not only expressed outwardly. It is rooted in self-trust, emotional awareness and a willingness to examine where our patterns come from. This year is about understanding myself well enough to lead with intention.
Resolution 1: Healing the relationship with yourself
I know that how I lead others starts with how I lead myself. Healing the relationship with myself means listening to my inner voice, taking my needs seriously and unlearning the idea that my value depends on how productive I am. This year, I want to rest without feeling guilty, set boundaries without explaining myself and choose self-respect even when it feels uncomfortable. The steadier my relationship with myself becomes, the less I look outside for validation.
Resolution 2: Acknowledge how childhood shaped your leadership style
Many dominant women learned early to take charge. Sometimes this came from competence and confidence. Other times, it came from necessity. This resolution is about looking honestly at your childhood experiences. Did you grow up needing to be responsible too early? Were emotions minimized, dismissed or unsafe to express? Did you learn that being strong meant being self-sufficient at all costs? In my case, I had to be idenpendent early on as a child, which led me to be a hyperindependentist adult. I definitely want to explore that further next year.
Resolution 3: Learn your attachment style
Attachment styles do not disappear in female-led relationships. They shape how dominance, closeness and control are expressed. A dominant woman committed to growth learns whether she tends toward secure, anxious, avoidant or disorganized attachment. She notices how this affects intimacy, conflict, and emotional availability. For example, I tend to lean towards an anxious attachment style. Once I find someone, I cling on to them, committed forever, which sometimes makes me struggle with setting my boundaries or expressing discontent. Next year, I want to learn more about attachment styles in order to apply lessons in my own life.
Resolution 4: Build relationships that support healing, not reenactment
Healing changes partner selection. A dominant woman no longer chooses partners who replicate old emotional dynamics, such as emotional unavailability, inconsistency or the need to be managed. Instead, she chooses partners who are emotionally present, self-aware, and capable of engaging with power dynamics consciously rather than reactively. Female-led relationships thrive when both people are invested in growth, not repetition.
Platforms like Chyrpe support this kind of intentional dating by allowing people to approach relationships with clarity rather than confusion. When dynamics are chosen consciously, they become sources of stability instead of tension. Next year, I want to continue looking for people like that on Chyrpe.
How to actually put these resolutions into place
If you’re like me and curious about exploring these topics more in depth I suggest you take the following steps:
Subscribe to two or three YouTube channels on attachment styles and emotional regulation, and commit to engaging with them weekly. Choose one podcast and listen consistently, noting insights that reflect your own patterns.
Ask a friend or a family member that is interested in these topics as well for a small, curated list of books they find essential. Read with intention, such as one chapter per week, and reflect on what resonates or challenges you.
Schedule a monthly self-review. Identify patterns you noticed, moments where you responded differently, and areas where old habits still showed up. Write it down to track progress.
