When it comes to dating, we’ve all seen them: the “15 Green Flags You Should Never Ignore” articles. And sure, they’re cute.
They make for good brunch talk or late-night group chats. But here’s the deal: a one-size-fits-all list will never fully speak to what you need in kink. Not because green flags don’t matter—but because everyone can’t use the same checklist… in this arena at least haha.
At Chyrpe, we believe that healthy love isn’t found in generic bullet points. It’s built through values that are deeply personal, surprisingly simple, and often underrated. So instead of offering a mass-produced cheat sheet, let’s zoom in on three core elements that should actually make your list, because they’re less about your date's playlist and more about how you feel when you’re with them.
- Safety – Your Nervous System’s Love Language
You don’t have to be clutching your pearls to need a sense of safety in a relationship. We’re not just talking “walks-me-to-my-car” kind of safety, though that’s appreciated too, we mean emotional safety.
Do you feel like you can express yourself without being judged, dismissed? Can you show your awkward, nerdy, kinky, passionate, sleepy-at-9pm self without shrinking? You know? someone who lets you exhale.
- Respect – Not the Bare Minimum, But the Whole Damn Foundation
Respect isn’t just holding doors or waiting to text back. It’s about treating your time, voice, type of intimacy, and values like they matter. Vice versa, of course.
Whether you're talking politics, pet names, or your secret love of '90s boy bands, respect means curiosity over control. It’s conversations that don’t turn into competitions, and in choices that don’t force you to compromise your core.
Someone who listens to understand, not to respond.
- Boundaries – Attractive, Underrated, and Absolutely Non-Negotiable
Can we stop acting like boundaries are brick walls? They’re more like fences with gates, thank you very much, and the right person won’t climb over them, they’ll ask for entry, you choose to permit, etc.
A healthy relationship means you can say, “Hey, I need…,” without it being a threat. The person who honors your boundaries? That's the real green flag.
This list isn’t about them—it’s about you. It’s a reminder that the biggest green flags often aren’t loud or showy. They’re the quiet, consistent signals that show YOU are welcome.
