New data from Chyrpe, the UK-based dating app for femdom and female-led relationships, reveals how sexual dynamics and desires shift across generations. Beyond roles, the analysis also shows which kinks gain traction across generations — such as foot fetishism — and which gradually lose appeal.
Sexual Roles Amplified: Age Brings Out the Dominant and Submissive
The Chyrpe-data shows a clear trend: as users age, both women and men become more pronounced in their sexual role preferences. Women increasingly embrace dominance, rising from 66% of 18–24-year-olds to nearly 90% in the 55–64 group, while their submissive proportion remains low. Men, on the other hand, progressively skew toward submission, increasing from 49% in the youngest group to over 71% among those 65 and older. Switches remain a notable but declining category for both genders, particularly in older age groups. These trends must be understood within the female-led relationship context of the app, which encourages women to assert control and men to explore submission.
Seniors Lead the Way in Power and Devotion
Some kinks seem to age like fine wine, growing more appealing with every generation. Service, for instance, is nearly 70% more popular among people aged 65+than among 18–24-year-olds, suggesting that acts of devotion become more valued over time. A similar pattern emerges with worship, which rises from about 14.6% in the youngest group to over 17% in seniors — a relative increase of more than 15%. Even D/s (Dominance and Submission), already strong among 18–24-year-olds at 6.7%, reaches 10.7% in the 65+ group, making seniors about 60% more likely to embrace it. The data suggests that people age, they lean more strongly into rituals of power, service, and reverence in their intimate lives.
Strong Puppy and Foot Fetish trends
Some kinks appear strongly age-dependent, showing a clear decline in popularity over time. Puppy play is most favored by 18–24-year-olds (3.6%) but drops to around 1% among users over 45—making young adults more than three times as likely to choose it compared to seniors. Similarly, foot fetish starts at roughly 5.5% for those under 35 but falls steadily to 2.5% in the 65+ group, meaning younger adults are more than twice as likely to express this interest. Femboy shows a milder decrease, from 3.2% in 18–24-year-olds to about 2% in older users, while edging declines from 8.5% to 4.4% across the same age span—making young adults nearly twice as likely to engage with it.
Gender Divergence in Kinks: Chastity stands apart
Looking at the evolution of kink preferences across age groups, most kinks tend to follow a similar trajectory for both men and women. Chastity, however, stands out as an exception. Among women, interest in chastity rises steadily with age, starting at about 5% in 18–24-year-olds and climbing to nearly 9% in the 55–64 group. Men, in contrast, show a more modest increase, hovering around 3.7–4.5% until middle age and only slightly rising to about 4% in older adults. This divergence suggests that while chastity gains appeal for women as they age, men’s interest remains comparatively flat.
Kinks that stand the test of time
Some kinks show remarkable stability in popularity across age groups, suggesting a lasting appeal that transcends generational differences. Bondage consistently ranks around 11% for most age ranges, from 18–24-year-olds (11.2%) to those over 55 (11.5%), with only a slight dip in the oldest group. Similarly, obedience maintains steady interest, hovering between 9.5% and 11.3% across all ages. Other kinks, such as crossdressing, gifting, and impact play, also exhibit relatively stable percentages, fluctuating only modestly between age groups.
UK specific trends
The UK shows sharper shifts than global patterns. British women climb to near-universal dominance after age 35, with submissive women virtually disappearing. Men, meanwhile, move into submission faster and more dramatically than the worldwide average, leaving switches as a smaller and more volatile group. Kinks tied to devotion—such as service and worship—rise more steeply in Britain. Age-related declines in edging are sharper in the UK, while foot fetishism proves more resilient than elsewhere.
US specific trends
In the United States, sexual preferences show distinctive patterns compared to global averages. Acts of devotion, such as service, start higher among young adults (8.9% vs 7.3% globally) and rise more sharply with age, reaching 13.5% in seniors, suggesting Americans embrace ritualized submission earlier and more strongly. Playful kinks like puppy play are also more popular among US young adults, peaking at 3.6% in 18–25-year-olds—well above global levels—before declining steeply with age. By contrast, chastity remains less prominent in the US, with interest hovering around 3–4% across most age groups, especially among women, compared with steadily rising global interest.